“The Day We All Need to Pull a Brené” (Manifesto Edition)
Brené Walked Away and So Did I
Welcome to The Healing rebellion.
If you’ve followed me for a while, you know I’ve spent years working with women who’ve clawed their way out of abusive relationships, codependency, and every glittery lie the “healing” industry sells us.
I used to believe healing was the goal.
Now I know it’s just the trap.
So I’m done with the noise - the fix-me coaches, the “alignment” algorithms, and the endless self-improvement carousel that convinces you freedom comes after you’ve done one more course.
This is where your personal healing rebellion begins.
A space for women who don’t need another affirmation, they need fire. They don’t need another label or modality, they need rebellion against the healing machine.
Truth. Autonomy. Permission to stop healing and start living.
And the grifter percentage is growing every day! Believe it or not you can get become a certified Life, Art, Movement, Somatic (add your own speciality!) coach for just 7 dollars! Yes, 7 dollars will get you a shiny certificate and the ability to hang up a shingle as a healer. All I can hear is Danger, Will Robinson
The Brené Moment
On 6 September 2025, The New York Times podcast The Daily released an episode called “Brené Brown Doesn’t Want to Be Your Self-Help Guru Anymore.”
In it, Brené said:
“I think there are a lot of well-meaning, well-intentioned, well-trained people in that space, and I think they make up about 30 percent of that space. I think there are 30 percent of the people who want to be in that space or are trying to be in the self-improvement, wellness space who are underqualified. Thoughtful, sometimes helpful, often benign. And I think there are 40 percent sheer grifters. Everything they say is predatory advice-giving.”
Then she said the line that made me grin and shout finally!
“There was a moment when I made a very specific, tactical ‘get the hell out of Dodge’ decision to not be anywhere near that space.”
Listening to Brené was moment I knew, I’ve already done the right thing stepping away from the “healing industry” and advocating for creation. Creation is bold, messy, curious, and living.
Not because I don’t believe in healing.
But because I believe in living more.
The Truth the Industry Hopes You Never See
If 40% are grifters, 30% are underqualified, and only 30% are actually doing good work that means most of what we’ve been consuming in the name of healing is keeping us stuck.
Why The Healing Rebellion Exists
To encourage women to break up with the following healing industry nonsense:
“Oh, it’s dead simple, isn’t it? All you’ve got to do is: heal your family trauma, diagnose every narcissist in a ten-mile radius (they’re breeding like rabbits, didn’t you know?), regulate your nervous system with the discipline of a Shaolin monk, kick every addiction you never admitted to having, process a few centuries of cultural and familial trauma before breakfast, repair your attachment style by lunch, reparent your inner child before dinner, and wrap it all up with a spiritual practice so lofty you forget you’re even human.”
And then because life’s just that generous, you still need to pay the rent, keep yourself hydrated like some sort of artisanal cactus, plough through an inbox that breeds faster than the narcissists, and pull off the Oscar-worthy performance of “I’m fine, thanks” every time someone asks.
This is the circus the healing industry keeps selling us. It’s not healing, it’s a hostage situation with incense. It’s exhausting and never-ending. And it’s not living.
The healing industry isn’t designed for you to graduate. It’s designed to keep you enrolled.
The longer you believe you’re broken, the longer they get to sell you pieces of yourself.
But what if you stopped?
What if you declared, like Brené, I’m out and decided that the only guru worth following is your own damn intuition?
That’s what rebellion looks like.
Rebellion is the New Healing
Healing was supposed to be a season.
Not a personality trait.
Rebellion is what comes next.
Rebellion says:
“No, I don’t need another certification to trust myself.”
“No, I’m not rehashing old wounds to prove I’ve evolved.”
“No, I’m not signing up for another spiritual upgrade.”
Rebellion says:
“I’m free even if I’m still messy.”
The Invitation
If this hit something deep inside you, welcome. You’ve found your people.
This Rebellion isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about remembering you were never broken. It’s about living your best unhealed and unbothered life.
Each week, I’ll be writing and recording The Healing Rebellion - part essays, part truth bombs, part unapologetic permission slips to live unhealed and unbothered.
And to kick it off, I’m giving you my free Rebellion Starter Guide, your anti-healing guide to stop fixing and start creating.
Let’s do what Brené did.
Let’s get the hell out of Dodge and build something real.